50 nos and a yes is a yes. This is a dangerous misunderstanding of the law that requires challenging. You’re muddying the already muddy waters.

50 nos and a no. Rape. 50 nos and a yes. Not rape. If you have consented then you have consented. You can make the case that your consent was due to being worn worn down but in order for it to be rape you’d need to show that the person raping you did not reasonably believe you consented at the point they initiated sex.

Put simply, you can be in an unhealthy relationship where you consent to sex you don’t really want to have, but this is not rape. We owe a duty of care to rape victims to make this incredibly clear. If you say no, and you’re clearly saying no, and someone initiated sex, frog march that fucker down to the police station. If you say no 49 times out of 50, learn how to enforce clear boundaries or get a divorce.

This breezy ‘everything is rape if I say it is’ approach is dangerous for women, for men and for society overall. We must be very carful what the law says and what it means in practice.