And verily it doth say in the book of CBT, verse one, chapter one, you cannot control what other people may or may not think. The brain is hard wired to see threats where none exist and to create a panic out of peacefulness... I didn't think you were encouraging parents to bring up hateful children but even if you were... so what? Plenty of people advocate bringing children up to be hateful people, they don't see it that way of course, but that's because everyone is the good guy in their own narrative.

The tendency to wobble under the pressure of other people's words and rebuttals is what puts younger writers like yourself off and stifles interesting voices on Medium. You feel as though you have done something wrong, said something wrong, or need to clarify because you haven't been clear. Put the onus on other people rather than yourself, you'll find writing here much easier if you make that a core part of your writing journey.

As an example, I wouldn't write about racism if I cared about people calling me racist. I have my own views about what constitutes racism and I don't fit into that box. People can call me whatever they like according to their misreading of my work. They can also use their own subjective descriptors, but that's not my problem, it's theirs. I don't have the mental space or energy to worry too much about what other people may think.

So don't wobble. Don't worry. Things 'going well' are subjective and your brain is already biased against you. Your feelings don't matter all that much because they're too changeable and easily influenced. Engage your cortex and ask your limbic system why it hasn't picked up on all the positive comments instead of one negative one. :o)