But then there are a whole bunch of women who reject a guy cos he's short, and a whole bunch of men who reject women because they're flat chested. You don't need a reason not to be attracted to someone, sometimes giving that reason can be hurtful - but you still don't need a reason. Labelling someone as 'phobic' for expressing (however badly) their sexual preference is a form of social manipulation. There are repercussions that come with words ending 'phobic' or 'ist' and these words need to be used carefully.

People will always care about bodies, they'll care about genitals and they'll care about pheromones. They can pretend they won't, but they will. Every human has preferences and those preferences might not be comfortable for others - but steeping those preferences in a bath of shame isn't the answer to solving this complicated problems.

It's also why I only date Penguins.