But you could also come to the dark side.... because I also choose the same person on a daily basis - and have done for eleven years... but I also don't have a problem with occasionally choosing someone else too - and I don't think marriage makes any difference to the choice itself. Plenty of people get married then make the opposite choice to Ben and his gym-flirtation. Come read the flip side and see if you can be won over to being against marriage. https://medium.com/the-panopticon-publication/marriage-is-a-mess-89f54aec158d