Great article. Very enjoyable. Although culpability for subconcious patterning cuts both ways. In the same way that you have taken responsibility for behaving like a fuck-boy and treating people badly — the women you have treated badly need to also explore what made them pick (and endure) you in the first instance.

All relationships are about how two people ‘relate’ — and that obviously comes with the caveat that both people bring their psychological and subconscious baggage to the table and attempt to relate to each other. In short… people generally find what they are looking for, whether that thing is healthy or unhealthy.

Solely blaming one party over another misses the point of human interaction and allows ‘the victim’ ’to absolve themselves of all responsibility and self reflection. The human race will only improve when everyone gets themselves to the level of self-insight you’ve shown here — it’s something we should all strive for. Thanks for writing. :o)