I have both a psychology degree and a BPD ex. The former was no use against the chaos of the latter…. I will also continue to write about such things whether I’m ‘allowed’ or not because all stories and words belong to all people - and insight isn’t limited to the professionally qualified.

You can simultaneously hold positions of condemnation and compassion. They are not mutually exclusive. I can condemn my ex for their actions and feel compassion for the young penguin they were and the childhood they endured that facilitated such actions.