I think there's a tendency for people of the same sex to gravitate towards the articles that already reflect their views. As a generalisation about Medium. There are a lot of echo chambers - when people don't do that, they tend to be the most outspoken members of their subgroup (and/or a Penguin). So you get a disproportionately high level of agreement OR if you don't have a subgroup (like me) you get a lot of disagreement. That's fine - I think the latter is far healthier and I'd rather people rocked up here and debated with me (as you have done) than rock up and tell me I'm right - because I'm not, nobody is.

Okay, moving on.... Most men DO grow up with a female carer and I think this is problematic. Not because there's inherently anything wrong with women, but because it is psychologically throwing men out of whack. Historically, for most of history - very young children were raised by both sexes (because there was no education) and once they'd got past breastfeeding etc, they usually went out to work (both sexes if they were poor) and time with their respective gendered parent if they were wealthy. Boys generally did not spend this much time with women; even my grandfather left school at 13 and went into work. I think women generally (but incorrectly) socialise their young boys to be nice boys - that is different from being kind and inclusive.

Now, I'm not going to lay the blame on women.... because this is a systemic issue. Men have historically gone out and taken all the jobs and left women at home. That changed after WWII and women entered the workforce. Some jobs (caring jobs) became associated with women, and that included teaching, therapy, nursing, childcare etc. Most of the jobs that interact with young children and their welfare. Those jobs, along with CEO of Fortune 500 companies need to be looked at. Why aren't men going for them? What's the issue here? Is it pay (I think it is) or is it something else?

And that, in a nutshell is the difference between feminism - which often can seem to be about getting women into well paid jobs rather than gender egalitarianism, which is looking at the problem holistically and thinking how could we solve the whole thing? We need more men in the lives of young children - we don't know the mechanism for doing this if fathers leave the family home (and these days they often do).