I think we're dancing around the consensus position that we're both heading towards. I think my concern is with the last two lines... because society is moving into a space where 'victim' is becoming a self-pronounced and self-reinforced position and perhaps social media has made it somewhat more toxic than it used to be.

I suspect we both know at least one person who has a continuing story of woe where they are consistently victimised by everyone at all points. They are the only common denominator in the story of woe - and you end up wondering if they're the unluckiest people in the world. That's not a gendered thing either, I've met both men and women like that. In one awful case I met two who had married each other. I'm concerned we're giving a lot of social kudos to the role of victim - rather than addressing the issues of real victims.

If we create a dichotomy of well, if there's a victim there must be a perpetrator, we set everything up as a binary. One person is at fault and one person is faultless. We lose sight of personal responsibility for those people either side.... whether that's the 'unhappy man who fell for the evil temptress at his workplace' or the 'woman who slept with her boss because she thought it was what she was supposed to do' - in that situation, we should be looking to suggest both have made a shit combined decision. That's both of them taking personal responsibility, not seeking to offset the blame onto the other.

I don't have a problem with addressing power dynamics, but address them at the time - don't retrospectively address them as though they were unknowable and unfathomable.

I'm looking forward to the new article and the dominance hierarchy - and I'm sure we'll get into it. Solid two years of arguing back and forth, I haven't been getting your stories pop up on my feed quite so frequently as I used to. I'm presuming you're still quite as productive as you've always been? I'll take it up with Algorithmia the Great Goddess of Medium.