It does clear a few things up — but to say that the #MeToo movement is a private and subjective thing that is individually experienced negates the galvanising effect that it had on feminism. To say it isn’t part of a wider societal movement would be disingenuous in the current political climate.

I appreciate that it’s a club that one does not voluntarily join — and your article suggests that you have very good reason for feeling attached to the #MeToo movement — and there are plenty of women in your position for whom that is sadly true. My curiosity around how your subjective experience of #MeToo informs your view on it isn’t an idle one. If what you see as an emotionally supportive moment of female camaraderie is viewed by others as a social movement with direction and purpose, there is a disconnect.

It is this disconnect that is causing problems in a wider society. As your original article suggests, Alyssa Milano has broken the group rules or covenant that exist. She has betrayed the collective ideology of #MeToo. My question really is… who created this covenant? You? Her? Someone else?

If this isn’t a movement, and it is merely an expression of solidarity, doesn’t it fly in the face of solidarity to publicly berate someone (especially another victim) for making a choice that is different from yours. You don’t want to defend Biden, she does. You’re both adults. You’re both sensible and rational. Yet she is not worthy of maintaining her #MeToo status in your subjective view of the world.

It’s complicated and nuanced — and is getting more and more complicated and nuanced with every additional issue that unfolds. Thanks for answering my questions and maintaining a polite (if somewhat strained) discourse.