Most western democracies have enough bread and circuses to keep the vast majority of the population off the street. I think the more restrictive theocracies are now coming up against the might of social media (and not doing well). I hope they do well too, I don't pray because I'm secular but I provide the thoughts part of the thoughts and prayers.

I'll kick back a bit on behalf of Mr Di Caprio, ephebophilia has a very specific meaning in child protection work (which I have done) and is the sexual attraction to people in the latter stages of puberty around 15-19 years old. Being attracted to people in their early twenties is not quite the same thing, though there is some arguable overlap at 18/19. Secondly, you have pre-supposed that age gaps by their nature are questionable. I don't know why that's the case. I think where we're at discord is that you presume that a relationship between an older man and a younger woman is inherently bad/predatory. I see it as neutral or irrelevant. A man or woman may be predatory but how many times they've circled the sun and got a cake doesn't factor all that much.

I think there should be a buyer beware caveat to all relationships but applying a generalised rule based on a given characteristic feels odd to me. People can and should be able to date who they like and in the spirit of arguing with you and urchling (hello urchling) would you be prepared to discriminate on any other characteristic? Would you be prepared to argue that people should be allowed to openly discriminate on the grounds of race or disability just because they have subjective opinions about a particular group of people? I might believe Indian men are naturally miosgynstic but is this something that is a) demonstrably true b) any of my business or c) necessary to be shared with anyone else?

I don't know what compels people to date outside of their age bracket, though in the spirit of full disclosure there is a ten year difference between myself and the significant other penguin.

With regards to the mens rights activists, I genuinely just don't see them. I appear not to be the target market for them and they don't seem overly prevalent on Medium. And yes, that is also a man's choice to make in the same way. If a man wishes to involve himself with someone he knows is going to use him, abuse him and dump his ass then that's entirely his choice. I will do some research and write that article, because it seems I'm arguing one side of the coin, it's the only side I ever see.

Urchling is bang on. But creeping and nefarious intent is not age dependent and this is a mistake many young urchlings make. Nefarious intent is what to watch for and 'creepiness' (which I have a problem with as a term) is often an inability to socially calibrate that some older men have. Nefarious intent might be the smiling guy her own age or twenty years older. Always ask about their family and listen to what your gut is telling you.

And yes. You can't have a society and do anything you want - but that's the nature of the libertarian socialist in me. You will be judged by the group.... but this judgment is what kept women subdued by men for a long time - a big part of what happened across the 20th Century was tacit support for the status quo. Women were held in check by other women and 'group think' as well as by men. So when you have a judgmental flock, you have to see whether the judgment being made is valid or whether it's simply opinion with the veneer of validity.

I think women and men should be able to do whatever they want free from any and all judgment. A flock can stand together and want to swim in different directions and support everyone to swim where they want. I am not sure that's entirely ecologically true...

OMG YOU WROTE ANOTHER STORY!!!!!!!!!!

Sorry, I got very excited there.