My arguments are always made in good faith and they can be successful rebutted with new suppositions because there is a wider discussion that can and should be had here.

The figures for rape stats are different in my country, but they are still significantly higher than murder - and you're right, this is a cultural problem. On that we absolutely agree. There needs to be greater education around consent and there needs to be far more research into the psychological pre-conditions for rape - which is rarely about sex and almost always about power. We need to understand it better in order to combat it and that simply isn't happening.

I think courts can and should do better, but I take your point about the numbers. With regards sexual assault, when the #MeToo movement began, there was a blurring of the distinction of what constituted sexual assault. Everything from gang rape at knifepoint to someone touching your bum in a nightclub whilst you danced was lumped together. It made everything a confusing mess. Throw in the Aziz Ansari debacle and things didn't get much clearer from that point on. These are staggering figures as you've suggested but the laws around sexual assault remain incredibly vague and open for interpretation. Social media has put the desired pace of change above what is achieveable and angry voices are filling the gap between the two.

I take your point about social discussions and it's a good one. Social media is a new platform for discussion, but it is rarely used that way. What you had in church, barbershops and quilting bees (I have absolutely no idea what that is) is people who knew each other well, discussing things they agreed and disagreed about. Social media IS new, because it doesn't reflect the culture around us. What it reflects is the culture of the people who think like we do. Instead of meeting an opposing view of a church elder, we only meet the 600,000 people who think like us.

Social media isn't a place of discssion. I know that's ironic given that's what we're doing here... but this is an anomoly not the norm. Social media isn't encouraging discussion, it's encouraging broadcast and monetising it. This causes widespread problem and shunts people into ideological silos. We are no longer shaping one culture, instead there are multiple cultures that have emerged which can no longer relate to each other. A society that stagnates and refuses to adapt eventually dies - but a society full of people caught in their own confirmation bias will combust. You need only look at US politics to see this in action.

I don't have the answers, I don't think anyone does - but I know that social media and the court of popular opinion is a dangerous road for a society to travel. When we get to the point that we no longer agree on the basic fundaments of law.... that is when things will become really scary. When the discussions turn to being 'a war' - that is when you'll see the darkest side of what humans are capable of. I don't think that'll make the world safer for men or women. We have to be careful what changes we wish for.

This has been an interesting discussion and one that I think could rumble on and on. I'm not sure we'll get to the end of it - but it's good to meet someone who can respectfully challenge what I've written. That is incredibly rare.