No. My argument is that both men and women have co-evolved sociologically and as a result have developed certain behaviours. I'd argue that intelligence is an emergent factor of sexually selected behaviour as is marriage and monogamy. Over time we have selected traits that propel the species forward but create separate behaviours for men and women - do these manifest at every individual level, no, but do they take root in the way our society is structured and how we treat concepts like romance - I'd argue yes.

I agree, fiction is about how the author sees the world. But it's also how the author filters the world. it's not a documentary, beause it would be boring. Life is unstructured and chaotic, bad things happen to good people for no reason. Fiction is a distillation process.... with the possible exception of Ullyses, we get frustrated if a book or film doesn't go anywhere, if it lacks structure. Watch any film or read any book, there's a natural bias towards justice. Fiction is collective group psychology. So if a story trope exists, and it is continued - such as the 'girl next door' a more fundamental psychological question to ask is 'why?'

To provide a summary. "No - society, and by extension women have evolved this way"

Fiction is a reflection of how the author sees the world, so why does the author see the world like this? And why do some ideas work and some don't?

I will always debate or discuss. That's how progress works.