No problem - I love a good word play!

You can claim to be anything you like to be, you can identify as an Italian American and/or a woman if you like. The issue comes with why you have selected those facets of your personhood as something that identifies you.

Why didn't you identify as a mother, or a singleton, an English speaker, a Baltimore Ravens supporter, or a Northern Hemispherian? What is it about Italian American or Woman that is more important than anything else?

The idea of supporting people based on some arbitrary defintion of what constitutes who they are is problematic - it disempowers people from individual thought and into group think - and it leaves people out. When you start saying 'Black people want.. or white people are.' - you have to ignore all the black people who don't and all the white people who aren't. You have to find a mental space for mixed race people.

My stance against identity politics is that it's divisive and about smaller and smaller niche interest groups that are prone to infighting. These groups go to war with each other, invoking more and more anti-liberal dialogue. You CANT say that. It empowers people to use whatever facet of their identity they want to justify whatever they want to say - without contemplating the wider effects of saying so.

My stance often gets me attacked because it sounds like I'm arguing with people who are working towards social justice. I'm not. I'm arguing against people who are moving the world away from liberal thought - and away from democratic socialism towards niche positions. In the modern world, even dissenting to someone's world view is seen as an act of oppression. A worrying road for a society to go down.

https://medium.com/lucid-nightmare/gaslight-gaslight-why-am-i-gaslit-everywhere-i-go-c9280a0a3b37