She's got a point - but let's not pretend that Joseph isn't a total irrelevance. Little more than failing to secure a reservation at a local hostelry his part in the story is somewhat limited.... and the overwhelming emphasis is on Mary's VIRGINITY. They don't call her 'The Age Gap Mary'. If anything, Joseph is a shining example of what step-parents can be.... though tbf, I'd be a great step-parent if the kid had weekend visits with an all-powerful celestial being. I see the Urchlings argument but I don't think it's a strong one (but don't tell her, she frightens me!)