That's absolutely correct, it's not a man or a woman thing, it's a both sexes thing. The answer is always to be found in sticking to the things that bind us together, that's why I often get blocked. As you're relatively new to the frosty collective, here are a few times where I went against the grain of received wisdom.

https://medium.com/p/108a8e36c61

https://medium.com/p/6703fb59618e

https://medium.com/p/c0ec43ff7a52

It often lands me in trouble, but that's totally fine. Society needs small birds to go into potentially explosive places to see what happens to everyone else and it's time the canaries got a break :o)