That's absolutely what I'm saying. It's really important that those in the median of the movement hang onto the narrative. That often fails to happen - and gradually the moderates are edged out of the conversation. I certainly was on the Depp v Heard case. I cautioned a 'wait and see' approach that was widely denounced as being anti-feminist. The articles on publications like 'Fearless She Wrote' have long since been deleted... but the moderate voices were edged out, moderates normally are.
#BelieveAllWomen is totally fine. I have worked in child protection long enough to know that at the point of disclosure, belief is absolutely key to psychological wellbeing. I've also worked in child protection long enough to know there are many varied and complicated reasons why accusations might be false. It's perfectly possible for people to tell the truth and for what they say to not to be objectively true or in some cases entirely impossible. The conflation of #BelieveAllWomen (a helpful piece of advice) into #BelieveAllWomen as a form of legal justification was misguided and, as you suggested, adopted by the extremists.
I agree, I think #MeToo was necessary, but I think much chance of meaningful dialogue was lost in the ensuing polarisation, particularly in the US, less so here and in Canada. I can support survivors coming forward with their stories, I can't support trial by social media because that's not what a liberal society does. By all means link me to your piece, you argue thoughtfully and passionately for what you believe in - I suspect it will be excellent.
We do have to be careful about labelling everything as fascism... but this article wasn't doing that per se. It's showing the blue-print for group think away from moderates and into the hands of the self-elected few. It's about the failure to question and the promotion of the wrong voices - something which intersects nicely with our debate about Trans issues. I don't think any group apart from the Nazis will become Nazis, but humans are collectively stupid - when you double a group size you seem to halve its intelligence. It's why I'm not keen on identity politics, I prefer individual psychological self-evaluation over group empowerment.