The entire argument becomes increasingly meaningless and confusing outside of these communities. The continuing spiral of identification which you're both slamming and lauding in the same article is creating a psychological mess from which there is no real exit strategy.

The real underlying problem that you have here - is that you can't argue for inclusion and special identification at the same time. You can't argue for blending into society whilst also insisting on special treatment on a subjective basis via whichever activist is speaking the loudest. You can't argue for inclusion within society and safe spaces away from society in the same breath - It's counter intuitive and retrograde.

The womxn wars are ridiculous, but so are agender, bigender, demisexual and demiboy labels. You're all just people. Human beings. Nobody outside of the woke community/genuinely transphobic (equal but opposite) gives a crap about your genitals or who you want to take to bed.

That's the reason why you're getting on better with Cis-men. They don't generally play identity politics as their default. They don't feel the need to pull everyone's identity apart into tiny bizarre categories. Why would they? They're the bad guys, the dollar-standard against which all other identities can rate themselves in the currency exchange of suffering. It's not a game they play, and it's not a game that anyone else should play either.