Well.... hello there and welcome to the frosty collective and thanks for coming in swinging. I can deal with some of these right off the bat.
The Neurodiversity movement may have been designed to do that - but my argument is that it doesn't. Neurodiversity, as it was originally intended was about the diversity in brain structures between people who presented similar symptoms. How it is being used is that people are presenting different behaviours, declaring themselves to have 'autism' or 'ADHD' and then using this as social leverage either to make content or to gain some advantage in the discourse.
I don't think Autism or ADHD are pathological, I think a lack of clarity around what is 'neurodivergent' makes these people less visible and more vulnerable. If you are hemiplegic and I have athletes foot, but I get to decide I am 'disabled' - because by my own measure of the word 'disabled' am, what does that mean for you?
My problem here is with the identity movement more broadly, yes peopled do exist and they do exist within overlapping facets of identity. These facets are no more important than each other, but if we allow wooly definitions and self-diagnosis then we're going to struggle to maintain a social understanding of what these things mean - furthermore we're going to disadvantage people who genuinely struggle and don't simply purport to struggle based on a private definition. How do you understand the difference between someone who is autistic and someone who is socially anxious but has decided this is autism? They are different things entirely and must be treated differently. If, after some CBT, social anxiety can be cured - has the person overcome their autism? Doesn't this mean that everyone can? Of course not.... and therein lies the problem.
So, to your second complaint about me lacking empathy and/or clickbaiting. Not really. I sometimes use titles designed to evoke a response in an audience, but I will come out debating and backing up my ideas. I see 'neurodivergence' as the wrong move for society - in much the same way I see the identity movement as 'feeling progressive' but actually making things significantly worse for people in those minority groups when they leave their echo chambers.
Over to you. :o)