What you have there is a codependent couple, a fairly common problem. They cannot be separated and put in separate spaces because both of them (due to programming) get some psychological pleasure from the chaos they engender in each other. In this case, both of them need therapy and both of them need out of the relationship.

It has less to do with feminism and more to do with psychology. Neither of these people is the best representative of their respective genders and neither should be used as a fair example to draw a more holistic conclusion.