You said elsewhere you cannot know what happens in the minds of men and I think this is one of those occasions where you have overreached. I think there are some differences between how men and women process emotions.

For example, I have noticed from my 15 years of social work that men tend to embark on 'doing' rather than 'reflecting' - and would like to reframe that 'dealing with it' as a form of male caring. Men often equate doing things and sorting things for others as an act of love. What might appear to the female as dispassionately rushing to the abortion centre might a) be exactly that to protect their fragile ego, or b) the most likely way a man would consider he should act to minimise distress and be a good man.

As you said, women operate from a different emotional landscape, but I would suggest that cuts both ways. :o)